Question on whether young love doomed from the start?
Loves makes the world go around. Everyone needs love in their loves, from family and friends and if you’re lucky that special someone. Who doesn’t remember their first crush? The nervous and almost sick feeling of having the object of your affection near you, the thrill of making eye contact, the excitement of exchanging words and the adrenaline rush of the first kiss . Aaahh, young love! Oh my god .. As if I am soO old .
No matter what age you are, falling in love is a heady experience and if it can stand the test of time, that love will be there for you for the rest of your life. Falling in love is easy- it’s staying in love that’s the difficult bit. It’s not all flowers and chocolates and fun dates and hugs and kisses. Those are just the good bits. The tough part is how you make it through the times when things are not working so well, and how you handle your tiffs and whatever issues that may arise. Which begs the question, can you really be bothered?
Couples who have been together a long time and see a future together usually try their hardest to make sure that things work out. They learn to compromise and take into account the other person’s feelings and opinions. A relationship that is still relatively young may not have the odds in its favour though.
Is it just puppy love? Are people who start relationships while still young and studying just playing around and not sure of what they’re doing? Are they too young to know what they want? Some people date for the sake of dating and being able to say that they have a ‘significant’ other. Sure, their partner may be perfectly likeable but they still want to shop around. These relationships are of course doomed from the start and are perfects examples of casual relationships. It’s wrong to assume that everyone is like that though.
Most parents frown upon their children dating and being in a relationship while they are still in school. They worry that it will affect their kids’ performance in their studies and jeopardize their future. And the usual mentality is that they’ll have plenty of time for that later and it’s just puppy love’.
Finding your perfect match while you are still studying doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re wasting your time and you will break up eventually. It doesn’t matter what age you are, just as long as you know what you want, how to go about it, and that you want it to work out. It may not be a sure-fire success but at least you’d be going about it the right way. We had the opportunity to meet couples who are in different stages of their relationship to get their take on young love and the challenges of being in a relationship at a young age; the couple in love and still on campus, the couple that met on campus and are still together and the couple that met on campus and are now married.
As for me, I am totally noob when it comes to relationship. I think the main thing I fail to do is to recognize my priorities in life. Some might not understand me and I would say my focus is clear on my career and as for my relationship, I need someone to support me, walk hand in hand with me, strive for the future and if we can lay down the priority then we can still perform academically and at the same time enjoy a healthy relationship. I am serious about achieving this in life and I want to endure that we both reach our dreams and goals. It’s a matter of trust and feeling. We will know immediately if there is strong sense of longing when we’re emotionally involved. If you don’t feel that strongly about your partner then the best thing to do is to take a step back and to remain friends. Taking this opportunity, I would like to seek for forgiveness, for what I’ve said or done which would be ‘sucky’ yo.. I am SoRRY !
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